This summer, President Obama proclaimed again that we “need fathers to recognize that responsibility doesn’t end at conception.” In a sense, of course, he is absolutely right. But the problem is that, in another sense, he is completely wrong: Male responsibility really does end at conception. Men these days can choose only sex, not fatherhood; mothers alone determine whether children shall be allowed to exist. Legalized abortion was supposed to grant enormous freedom to women, but it has had the perverse result of freeing men and trapping women.
The likelihood of this cultural development was foreseen by the radical feminist Catherine MacKinnon, one of the critical voices responding to Roe v. Wade’s extension of the right of privacy to cover abortion. In an essay called “Privacy vs. Equality,” MacKinnon argued that “abortion’s proponents and opponents share a tacit assumption that women do significantly control sex. Feminist investigations suggest otherwise. Sexual intercourse . . . cannot simply be presumed coequally determined.” Indeed, she added, “men control sexuality,” and “ Roe does not contradict this.”
“Abortion facilitates women’s heterosexual availability,” MacKinnon pointed out: “In other words, under conditions of gender inequality [abortion] does not liberate women; it frees male sexual aggression. The availability of abortion removes the one remaining legitimized reason that women have had for refusing sex besides the headache.” Perhaps that is why, she observed, “the Playboy Foundation has supported abortion rights from day one.” In the end, MacKinnon pronounced, Roe’s “right to privacy looks like an injury got up as a gift,” for “virtually every ounce of control that women won” from legalized abortion “has gone directly into the hands of men.”
At the time, MacKinnon’s work may have seemed little more than a curiosity on the left, but, as the years have passed, some of the essay’s claims have proved prescient. I recall a law student who would admit when pressed, “I’m in favor of keeping abortion legal because I don’t like using condoms.” Since abortion could now come between conception and birth, he saw no benefit to missing any portion of sexual pleasure, even though it imposed a risk of surgery on his partner. He may have assumed a rational partner would choose abortion either freely or under pressure. With less deliberate callousness, under the influence of passion almost any male may think quite simply: “At least there’s a way out if the unlikely happens and pregnancy occurs.”
I’ve also met a clever female undergraduate student living with her boyfriend, who thought she had solved this problem. When I asked whether she was for or against abortion, she answered: “I’m pro-choice, but you can bet I tell him I’m pro-life!” She reasoned that, in light of her warning, he would be careful not to fool around in ways that could lead to pregnancy.
Such a lie may not provide protection for every young woman in her situation, however. If she says she is pro-life so that he thinks abortion is not an option for her, he might decide to keep her from getting pregnant by leaving her for someone more open to abortion, a woman who doesn’t insist on his using a condom. That is, the presence in the sexual marketplace of women willing to have an abortion reduces an individual woman’s bargaining power. As a result, in order not to lose her guy, she may be pressured into doing precisely what she doesn’t want to do: have unprotected sex, then an unwanted pregnancy, then the abortion she had all along been trying to avoid. Even though her abortion in this case is not literally forced, it would be, in an important sense, imposed on her. And, far from alleviating her overall situation, it would merely return her to the same sexual pressures, made worse by a new assurance to her boyfriend that she is willing to take care of a pregnancy.
Perhaps it was difficult to foresee such cultural trends back in 1973, when Roe v. Wade was handed down by the Supreme Court. But they simply track the inner logic of choice and the market. Economists have shown that such scenarios have in fact become common since abortion was legalized in the United States. Easy access to abortion has increased the expectation and frequency of sexual intercourse (including unprotected intercourse) among young people, making it more difficult for a woman to deny herself to a man without losing him, thus increasing pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections. (See, for instance, Jonathan Klick and Thomas Stratmann’s 2003 study, “The Effect of Abortion Legalization on Sexual Behavior,” in the Journal of Legal Studies.)
Furthermore, if a woman attempts to choose birth instead of abortion, she may well find the child’s father pushing the other way. Her boyfriend’s fear of fatherhood would once have been focused on intercourse itself and could have led him either to be careful to avoid conception or else (overcoming that fear) to commit himself beforehand to equal responsibility for the child. His fear now will turn to getting her to choose abortion. One investigator, Vincent M. Rue, reported in the Medical Science Monitor, that 64 percent of American women who abort feel pressed to do so by others. Another, Frederica Mathewes-Green in her book Real Choices, discovered that American women almost always abort to satisfy the desires of people who do not want to care for their children.
Catherine MacKinnon seemed to suggest that abortion leads to greater male sexual aggression only “under conditions of gender inequality,” which implies more equality for women could reduce the male exploitation caused by Roe v. Wade. That makes sense in theory. To the degree that individual women are economically, educationally, and in other ways empowered, they should be more able to stand up to male pressures to have unwanted sex (and to have unwanted abortions in order to give the guys still more unwanted sex).
But counteracting the negative forces of sexual competition is difficult. Even if women were universally to agree to refuse sex without condoms, for example, enforcement of this agreement in such an intimate sphere would be nearly impossible. Women would always be tempted to increase their individual sexual competitiveness by consenting to sex without a condom, while relying on abortion as a backup, thus causing female solidarity and power to collapse. Only women strong enough to forgo boyfriends altogether might be likely in the end to resist.
Furthermore, if MacKinnon is right, wherever women have not yet overcome gender inequality, involuntary sex and involuntary abortion will tend to be more frequent, precisely as a result of abortion’s availability. To the degree that a culture is built on machismo, for example, the legalization of abortion will make women relatively worse off by giving men another tool to manipulate women as sex objects. Again, to the degree that an economy employs mainly men, leaving women dependent on economic handouts, women will be much less likely to resist male pressures to make use of abortion. Wherever men make women’s decisions for them, the option of abortion will be a man’s choice, regardless of how the law may label it.
Human-rights activists in developing nations must learn to consider this fact. In those countries, only a thin, elite layer of truly independent and powerful women may be relatively unharmed by the availability of abortion, because only for them is the abortion option more nearly their own. Proclaiming a right to abortion in developing countries may mean just adopting the viewpoint of these well-to-do professionals—which ought to be no surprise. Those elites are often the only voices for women heard in the transnational political arenas where abortion is debated.
Moreover, the availability of abortion may make all societies less open to empowering women in other ways. MacKinnon may well be right that stronger women would more often resist male pressures to risk pregnancies and have abortions. But, perhaps paradoxically, the option of abortion actually makes sympathy and solidarity—and thus women’s empowerment—less likely.
When birth was the result of passion and bad luck, some people could sympathize with a young woman who was going to need help with her baby, though the stigma of bastardry was genuine. If money or a larger place to live were going to be necessary for her to stay in school, a sense of solidarity would likely lead friends and family to offer assistance. The father would feel strong pressure as well, for he was as responsible as she for the child. He might offer to get a second job or otherwise shoulder some of the burdens of parenting.
But once continuing a pregnancy to birth is the result neither of passion nor of luck but only of her deliberate choice, sympathy weakens. After all, the pregnant woman can avoid all her problems by choosing abortion. So if she decides to take those difficulties on, she must think she can handle them.
Birth itself may be followed by blame rather than support. Since only the mother has the right to decide whether to let the child be born, the father may easily conclude that she bears sole responsibility for caring for the child. The baby is her fault.
It may also seem unfair to him that she could escape motherhood (by being legally allowed to prevent birth), while he is denied any way to escape fatherhood (by still being legally required to pay child support). If consenting to sex does not entail consenting to act as a mother, why should it entail consenting to act as a father? Paternity support in this context appears unjust, and he may resist compliance with his legal duties.
Prior to the legalization of abortion in the United States, it was commonly understood that a man should offer a woman marriage in case of pregnancy, and many did so. But with the legalization of abortion, men started to feel that they were not responsible for the birth of children and consequently not under any obligation to marry. In gaining the option of abortion, many women have lost the option of marriage. Liberal abortion laws have thus considerably increased the number of families headed by a single mother, resulting in what some economists call the “feminization of poverty.”
The mother is even worse off if, during pregnancy, tests show that the child will have a disability: Doctors often press for abortion, in order to be sure that she does not later blame and sue them for the costs of raising her child. Some have suggested that health-care plans should provide no postbirth coverage for a handicapped child whose mother refuses a paid abortion. If she does not abort, after all, she will be causally responsible for the costs and the alleged burdens that the child brings. Even her friends and neighbors may make her feel ashamed for not choosing to abort her child.
Employers may likewise react negatively to maternal needs where abortion has been available. If they (or the state) pay for abortions, they may feel less obligated to shape labor practices to the needs of mothers. If maternity causes problems with work routines or job schedules, the employer may well consider these to be private or personal problems that female employees brought on themselves. The availability of abortion makes women’s claims for better working conditions lose a measure of legitimacy.
Throughout human history, children have been the consequence of natural sexual relations between men and women. Both sexes knew they were equally responsible for their children, and society had somehow to facilitate their upbringing. Even the advent of birth control did not fundamentally change this dynamic, for all forms of contraception are fallible.
Elective abortion changes everything. Abortion absolutely prevents the birth of a child. A woman’s choice for or against abortion breaks the causal link between conception and birth. It matters little what or who caused conception or whether the male insisted on having unprotected intercourse. It is she alone who finally decides whether the child comes into the world. She is the responsible one. For the first time in history, the father and the doctor and the health-insurance actuary can point a finger at her as the person who allowed an inconvenient human being to come into the world.
The deepest tragedy may be that there is no way out. By granting to the pregnant woman an unrestrained choice over who will be born, we make her alone to blame for how she exercises her power. Nothing can alter the solidarity-shattering impact of the abortion option.
Richard Stith teaches at Valparaiso University School of Law in Indiana.
Comments:
The trapped animal analogy resonates with women. It speaks to the desperation they often feel when faced with an unintended pregnancy. Trapped animals do desperate things to escape when they feel threatened -- even killing those they perceive to stand in the way.
Likewise, abortion pits mother against child. A woman may believe that her only (or best) response must be at the expense of her own child’s life. However, women are not animals, and it’s not natural for women to kill their children. A woman knows this intuitively, so abortion offers them an unnatural solution to often-circumstantial problems.
Abortion becomes the trap that awaits pregnant women who are without an adequate support system, namely a stable marriage relationship. Being single adds to the dilemma. Unfortunately, abortion has become the cultural default position. And, women have gotten the message that in less than ideal circumstances, you are better off to abort your child.
Even if a woman wants to continue her pregnancy, financial worries and the disruption of school or career plans are what most often pushes her toward abortion. This is where society’s acceptance of abortion denies women a true choice in an unexpected pregnancy.
Women need to know that they can continue their pregnancies and keep their place at school or on the job. Unfortunately, abortion has become the cultural default position. And, women have gotten the message that in less than ideal circumstances, you are better off to abort your child. Society accepts abortion as an easy out, not just for women, but for all of us. Abortion will never be rare as long as we allow it to be the default position. Abortion is no choice for a woman who thinks that it is her only choice.
The pro-life community needs to support laws that punishes those who do not provide pro-life counseling such as abortion clinics and doctors. Then it needs to assist women to create environments to support their children. The message needs to be: there ARE ways because we will MAKE WAYS for you. You CAN do this and we STAND BY YOU.
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The problem begins with copulation. Women allow themselves to be copulated; men perform the copulation.
What neither want to take into account that the result is not an accident.
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The problem begins with copulation. Women allow themselves to be copulated; men perform the copulation."
IMHO, we can say that women copulate and men copulate, that women fornicate and men fornicate, that women screw and men screw. We can legitimately say that women allow themselves to be impregnated while men impregnate. However, it is really twisting the language to say that women can be copulated in an act that men perform,known as known as copulation,
legislation. God Bless and pray for our Clergy
The other side of this is that men often are very confused. They have been led to believe that they have no say and so many feel they need to allow the women to decide. They believe they are supporting her decision because it is "her body" . Then if she suffers after, she often is angry at him for allowing her to abort. It can be a no win situation and is very complex.
In the end, abortion is bad, for everyone, the woman, the man, future siblings, families and of course the baby. Society as a whole is impacted and suffers from the taking of human life.
So, you ask what does pursuit have to do with pre-marital sex, procreation and abortion. Simple, legalized abortion added yet another tool to a woman's arsenal. She could now have sex as an enticement to a man, she could go all the way, without having to accept the consequences of accidentally getting pregnant. In short, a woman as a result of abortion could use actual sex, rather than teasing, e.g., as a tool, but pinpoint even better the man she wants. If oops, she get's pregnant by a man she soon learns is not the one she wants (or never wanted as a mate), she aborts; if he is the one she wants, she makes him her child's father. I've seen this in my own life and in the life of so many other men.
Furthermore, the woman's right to choose may very well be disarming for men. On the one hand, abortion presents itself as a possibility against an unwanted pregnancy for him, but, on the other hand, for the young man in this situation, he soon finds that his life and needs, whether he wants the child by that particular woman or not, is legally in her hands. Where, before Roe v Wade the playing field was even for both men and women in the pursuit process, unilateral abortion rights has most certainly given her an upperhand in the pursuit.
Again, the perspective in this article is interesting, but like so many theories that are not provable it is predicated on assumptions that don't necessarily reflect true human nature. Roe v Wade did what it did. Women have say (the power) over procreation and men don't.
"The real tragedy of abortion is not that a woman kills a child, but that a woman kills her own child."
In fact, the solution is found in women simply deciding to enforce the social contract of marriage. If a man wants to have sex with a woman, he must promise to marry her, support and protect her children, and do so faithfully and for a life. The real solution is for women to insist on this contract being honored before they give up the one leverage point they possess. Once this leverage is forsaken in premarital sex, the need for the man to enter into a contract is moot. The woman has lost all her power.
In a society where women have the right to choose not just abortion, but whether or not to engage in premarital sex, they must realize that they possess an incredible power to shape their lives, for better or for worse, according to their choice. The choice of premarital sex is a choice born of weakness -- weakness of character. Women who withhold sex until a man offers the consideration of support and protection have no need for abortion.
When it comes down to it, why have we been letting pro-choicers get away with it? Does no one else laugh out loud at the way pro-choicers dress up murder in the most schmaltzy sentiments? Or is that indecent?
Aside from the illogical argumentation of Roe v. Wade, the decision was handed down in a climate of sexual revolution and "free love"--that is, free sex, which handed the male a tremendous advantage--free meant sex without obligations and without responsibility. Roe v. Wade went hand in hand with the pill as the mechanism to pull the rug out from any woman who might still believe that the sexual act implied love and marriage--that is, responsibility.
I am no feminist, but I agree with the author, that abortion was and remains a bonanza for men. It is the case that before Roe v. Wade, women often went away to have their child, The child was then generally put up for adoption, or the woman and her partner married. Premarital sex is not new--my grandmother and great-grandmother were pregnant when they married in the early decades of the 20th century. Today abortion lifts all responsibility from the male and leaves the woman with a choice of single motherhood, which is disadvantageous to both mother and child, or the option of killing her own child, a solution that often brings devastating psychological effects upon the mother. Adoption is rare. The escape from responsibility offered by abortion has, in my view, colored all areas of our private and public life ever since Roe v. Wade was handed down.
Again, thank you for this article and the acknowledgment that abortion left men--primarily--off the hook.
The lack of future control over my own personal situation lead me to depression and a suicide attempt. I take care, love and support my daughter now that is not the issue.
but I question the author while they accurately summarize the situation of the man, "It may also seem unfair ............." they don't add any weight to it no value does it simply mean I hear you but it is unimportant we need to look after the needs of the potential male inside her who may go through the same thing you are now? And then again accurately list people who may point the blame solely on the mother for HER choice and again does not actually give weight to the logical evidence presented.
I will say women you do have a right it is her body. But men also should have the same rights. Marriage and contraception are not connected because a flaw in the logic would be that if women decided to keep these babies men who support their children would just get married. Which is not true.
In this day and age children should be born into marriages period. (No offence to alternative lifestyle people). And I think that women who decide to have sex should not be using sex or children as manipulation tools to be married. I have not done any studies but I would be interested to see how teenaged girls and boys view marriage and I would bet that the positives far out weight the negatives in the mindset of these girls. But maybe that is the fundamental problem.
The article summarized my points of view on the entrapment of men better than I could ever have imagined so there is no need for me to repeat. I would just say as an article on women’s solidarity I assume it is a well done. On the issue of abortion it completely misses the mark by being so one sided. I would challenge any readers after me to consider this option before formulating an opinion. Hold women who make these choices accountable… not punish but do not provide social crutches that make these situations not only comfortable but profitable. I would suggest within the same period a low risk abortion can be performed have a man be able to officially opt out of fatherhood and all legal obligations. Now I know it sounds harsh and trying to allow a man to be free to do anything he wants but, wouldn’t that also eliminate marriages based on unwanted children which I suspect is a large part of the over 50% divorce rate? Would that possible eliminate women choosing to have children by men in order to keep them? Would it make some women see the reality of the men they choose to be with rather than a fairytale he may have sold her to sleep with her in the first place?
Again I love my daughter but the situation that lead to my depression and near death is not one of equality, in any sense of the word
if your statics “number-one cause of death of women who are either pregnant or have just given birth is homicide…..” I think it proves one of 2 things,
1) Either men have a fetish for impregnating then murdering women which would be a horrible situation that I hope is not true.
2) Or the current system is so one sided that men feel that they have no recourse but to act out in horrible ways
I do NOT support violence towards anyone. But I think the truth is the problem is one that we are not willing to address… it is legally, (as it should be) in her hands alone to make the choice, but the outcome of that choice that she makes ALONE effects many others and the law does not address this imbalance thus you have men backed into corners doing horrible things. AGAIN I apologize to any battered/abused/murdered women this is not an excuse and I do NOT agree with violence towards women.
The easy access to abortion, and the looming threat of tax funded abortions, is that the value of life itself has rapidly decreased since Roe vs Wade. We have more abortions, more teenage "mothers", more children in need of foster care due to lack of valuing the actual life of a child, an economy whereby women almost have to work to keep a family afloat with our children being raised by Daycare centres as a result - and our children being raised according to the moral fibre of the "teachers" at these centres or 'homebased" daycares.
We have bought into what we have been heavily served....a self centred cruise ship mentality about ourselves and life itself: It's all about me, what I want at this moment and how fast can I get it, how much can I possibly consume in the shortest period of time all done with the careless abandon we have been brain washed to believe of the "Free Love" movement.
It's been 40 years since that fateful summer and other than a pseudo increase of respect of women in the market place what have we gained as a society?
Our lust for "instant" anything is fueling the economy and all things pertaining to my "personal" desires and very little real care for LIFE. It used to be sacred!
The most interesting thing I read was the auto biography by Ravi Zaccharias and, in reference to the Indian cultural mindset he said that by cultural practice and upbringing, people in India were able to live by two separate and opposite "truths" at the same time i.e. piety in religion and the "cut throat" deal maker in the market place. Isn't that how we have become? We are environmentalists who "wouldn't hurt a fly" and supporters of AIDS awareness and yet we refuse to see human life as valuable enough to defend once it becomes a personal inconvenience.
Men with power over women. Women with power over men. I this dilema I think started in the Garden....."That woman that you gave me...She did it, I just ate it!" (paraphrase mine) Then their kids? One kills the other and then smart mouths God when asked about it. Selfishness and greed are as old as time.....Such simple matters really and yet here we are debating about who is responsible for murdering our children. We are! All of us! Men and women alike in equal portion: Everyone. More importantly is: Who is going to bring this to an end? We are! All of us! Men and women alike in equal portion: Everyone.
Once we stop debating this diversion and actively, strongly, and repeatedly petition our ELECTED officials telling them that those that put them in office will vote them out of office if they don't knock it off and start listening to their constituents...All of their constituents not just those with the bucks.
We are a Nation, under God whether you are north or south of the Canadian or Mexican border. When we write as many letters to Governors, Premiers, Presidents, Prime Ministers, Mayors, Senators and Congres(wo)men as we do blogs and facebook/twitter/myspace comments we will see change....Show up at "theCall" or "theCry" and do what you say.....give your faith feet instead of fear.





How much longer will God have mercy on us?