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Wednesday, January 20, 2010, 8:55 AM

Megan McArdle offer some of the best advice I’ve heard in a long, long time:

The next time you are trying to imagine why the people who disagree with you are actively promoting the destruction of all that is good in the universe, grab a soothing cup of mint tea, put your feet up on a comfy pillow, and then close your eyes and imagine what those people would look like campaigning against something that is a very bad idea.  99 times out of a hundred, you’ll find that they look . . . well, exactly like they look when they’re campaigning against your idea.  And suddenly the whole thing is no longer so inexplicable, isn’t it?

I mean, we all know that that’s ridiculous, because you have never in your life been wrong about any major question, or had a bad idea of your own, which is why you are so fabulously wealthy and married to the first person you ever dated, who is even now smiling at you in blissful perfection from the arms of your four flawless children.  But they don’t know that, you see.  As I think I’ve mentioned, they haven’t met you.  They won’t know anything about you until you finally accept that Nobel Peace Prize.  So you’ll have to content yourself with understanding that while you, personally, may never be in error, other well meaning people sometimes are.  And then still other well-meaning people have to get up off the sofa and point this out, lest they lead the entire nation astray.

This does not require arguing that the people who oppose you are right.  Obviously, if you thought that, they wouldn’t be opposing you.  It just requires a little more empathy, a little less tribalism.

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2 Comments

    Joe DeVet
    January 20th, 2010 | 11:14 am

    OK, OK! I get it. I’m going to be Mr. Nice from now on.

    Well, almost. I will never do anything but loathe those who campaign to spend other people’s money (such as my own) on a non-solution to the non-problem of global warming.

    It’s a HOAX, everyone!

    I also don’t like people calling golf boring, and I never will stop not liking it! Since I think watching golf is exciting, you invited me to watch your paint dry. I’ll be happy to do it, as long as one newly-painted wall is competing with one or more other ones to dry with the most birdies and least bogeys.

    Curt
    January 20th, 2010 | 9:34 pm

    Giving the other fellow the benefit of the doubt and assuming that person operates in good faith is almost always warranted. As a Christian, I believe it’s also consistent with my faith. I wish more political conservatives were as conservative in temperament as McCardle describes.

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