at Business Insider:
“You need to keep your skills fresh,” said a commenter in a recent post about the finances of parenting, referring to the concept of a mother staying at home with the kids. “In case of death or divorce.”
I didn’t argue, but I shook my head and rolled my eyes. (I do this to avoid leaving snappy replies to people’s comments. Work with me.)
I’ve long felt that combining one’s finances with a potential, or existing, partner should be approached with the same attitude as the partnership. What point is there in marrying (or otherwise vowing your eternal love) if you don’t think it has much chance of lasting?
Naturally, death is a part of life and should be considered as a possibility. But considering divorce when deciding whether a mother should stay home with her young babies, or which partner’s career should be primary, seems counterproductive. My motto is, if you’re so concerned about divorce that you don’t think you’ll make it through babyhood, perhaps you shouldn’t be having babies.
This is not to say that certain classes of people should submit entirely to their partners, letting them make decisions and more money and all the financial House Rules. What I’d propose instead is a more sensible, trusting and ultimately relationship-friendly approach to the financial decisions of partners. I’d propose being ruled more by hope than fear. (Is that a campaign slogan, or what?) Here’s what I mean.
September 12th, 2012 | 8:29 am
Being an article in a business magazine , one does not expect to find certain foundational principles ..
Thought it would be good to bring those up here , for the sake of the younger readers .
‘ Seek ye the Kingdom and all else shall be added .’ – , thus , giving of time and money , in prayer and worship together , reading of the word , giving of alms are ways to build the solid foundations for marriage , with statistics showing that such marriages do last..
even in the midst of the unexpecetd , how God uses such ..
http://www.seraphicmass.org/ – a good site where one can request the precious privilge of Holy Mass being offered, may be in honor of particular saints , whose loving prayers one has recived , and being able to support missions in poor countries at the same time !
There is the magnificient history of the largest church, in the world , on ‘Royal Mountain ‘ Montreal , dedicated in honor of St.Jospeh – that was started by St.Andre , a small ,’uneducated ‘ man , a door keeper, whose holiness brought forth so many miracles of healing ..
even though his father ( in a household of 12 children ) dies in a logging accident , St.Andre kept his devotion to St.Joseph , now to be beacon of strenght to many , esp. in these times when many need such strenght of Father love !
Thus , in the power of forgiving merciful love , families able to live holy lives ,of spiritual warfare too , on behalf of the many afflicted in all our lives , against the spirit if idolatry and greed and fears and need for undue control etc: without undue burdens and worries about ‘tomorrow’ that the world would try to bring in – such would seem to be the ways of seeking His Kingship over all areas of our lives and for generations down or prior too !