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Sunday, June 6, 2010, 9:39 PM
Wesley J. Smith

We are quickly becoming an entitlement culture that increasingly refuses to set self limits and presumes the right to harness technology to get us what we want–no matter how destructive to others and to the overall culture.  Nothing epitomizes this anything goes, me-me/I-I mentality than the extreme uses of IVF.

When introduced, IVF was supposed to help infertile married couples have children.  Now, it has become a mechanism for crass eugenics, such as using embryo or egg selection not just for health, but for hair color, intelligence, etc.. It is used by healthy, fertile women so that they won’t have to carry their own babies, by fertile single women to have multitudes of children–as in Octomom–and even by post menopausal women to give birth in late middle age or older.  Sometimes, it is used for both, such as by a self described “baby addict” and her husband from the UK.  From the story:

Eight babies should be enough for any mother – especially at the age of 54. Not for Karen Johnston. The self-confessed baby addict was so desperate to extend her already – extensive family that she underwent £3,000 of fertility treatment in eastern Europe. The happy result is twins, who yesterday were settling in at home after three months fighting for their lives in hospital. ‘When I was told I could finally bring Imogen and Asa home I was overjoyed,’ said Mrs Johnston, a housewife.  ‘The past three months have passed in a blur of emotions and anxiety.

These things do not arise in a vaccuum. Ultimately, society gets dragged in to help pay the costs, which once the children are in being, are of course, moral and legal imperatives:

My husband Roger and I have spent all our time at the hospital watching the twins progress and praying that they make it. ‘We are looking forward to being normal parents of newborn babies. ‘Right now that means feeding them every two hours throughout the night. Although I’m exhausted, just being able to hold them makes it all worthwhile.’ The twins were conceived in the Czech Republic using a donated egg and 55-year-old car worker Mr Johnston’s sperm. They arrived 13 weeks premature on March 12, with Imogen weighing 2lb and Asa 2lb 5oz.

Excuse me if I don’t send a congratulatory note.  This is abusing technology to serve one’s own obsessions without regard to the impact it has on others.  It is failing, if you will, to be a good neighbor.

I bring this up not to focus on yet another example of extreme behavior, but rather, because the way IVF has been hijacked from being limited to real cases of need to also being at the service of pure self gratification is merely a precursor of things to come when even more powerful technologies are unleashed, such as cloning and synthetic life (about which more, soon).

Technophiles are fond of saying that resistance is futile. But I do think we can maintain reasonable control with a combination of  proper regulations–circumvented in this case by the parents going to Eastern Europe–and by refusing to socially laud and coo over hedonistic solipsism, as if social outlawry were cute or cutting edge.  In other words, we need to reinvigorate the power of cultural shame to maintain social proprieties–just as we do with good success in preventing racism, for example.  Or to put it another way, while law can impede technological abuses, in the end, only a self restraint reinforced by the power of social disapproval and peer pressure, can truly prevent them.

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    Alison
    June 7th, 2010 | 1:49 am

    Very well written post. Thank you for speaking with reason and respect for others.

    padraig
    June 7th, 2010 | 10:27 am

    I was taken a bit aback some years ago when a woman I have known virtually my entire life gave birth to a baby without direct male intervention, via sperm bank. She was in her late 30′s, no husband prospects in sight, and wanted a baby. She also had a good career and good family support, so I gradually became ok with that (not that my opinion was sought in the matter).

    Now my younger son goes to school with two “two-mom” kids. Both couples found ways to get male influences into their kids lives, and both kids are doing great, even despite one of the couples splitting up.

    They’ve become more or less my templates for the successful fatherless-by-design kid. As long as the kid has a support structure, and some way of making up the loss of a father figure, the kids can be fine.

    However, as a father I still think any kids with a positive father figure in their lives will have a myriad of distinct advantages over kids that don’t.

    I might add that the woman who inspired this discussion, despite having a husband, really needs to find another way to satisfy her baby longings. Maybe a nice chihuahua…?

    Wesley J. Smith Reply:

    Or adoption?

    padraig
    June 7th, 2010 | 11:07 am

    I would favor adoption too, Wes, but I have found most women (and men for that matter) really REALLY want to have their “own” baby. I do not recommend arguing the point with such women without body armor, flame protection, etc. Touchy subject.

    I do know one woman who has successfully fostered/adopted a string of children in addition to her biological family, and I am incredibly impressed by her. However, it’s not for everybody. In my experience there’s a certain kind of emotional makeup required to take in someone else’s child and raise it as your own, and people with that makeup are in the minority.

    Ken Quick
    June 16th, 2010 | 8:30 am

    Good article, Wesley. The truth is worse, though. Since life begins at conception, IVF and all similar procedures in which one or more living human beings are killed (i.e. “unnecessary” fertilized eggs “discarded”; multi-implantation “reductions” etc.) is murder. At it’s root this is rebellion against God’s sovereignty and providence. Killing of one’s children is an abomination. If a couple cannot conceive, they are not to sin in order to become parents. Adoption is one viable option as you point out, even though the biological parents have themselves sinned.

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