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The Era of the Narcissist

Of all the astonishing features of the medieval cathedrals, one feature must stand out as particularly surprising to the modern mind: We have no idea who designed and built them. In a fashion quite foreign to contemporary practice, the architects and builders did not bother to sign their names on the cornerstones. The anonymity of the great souls responsible surely seems strange to our age. Why build the cathedral of Notre-Dame de Chartres if you can’t take credit for it? No lasting fame? No immortalized human glory? We are, if not scandalized, at the very least perplexed by the humility of these forgotten artists who labored in obscurity. Do and disappear? This is not how we roll in the America of the twenty-first century.

The artistic and cultural norm of the anonymous artist or craftsman began to change during the so-called Enlightenment. Witness Jean-Jacques Rousseau’s Confessions, a book he dedicated “to me, with the admiration I owe myself.” The book opens with these lines: “I have entered upon a performance which is without example, whose accomplishment will have no imitator. I mean to present my fellow-mortals with a man in all the integrity of nature; and this man shall be myself.” Rousseau deliberately chose his title as a response to Augustine’s work by the same name. In contrast to Rousseau’s vain self-aggrandizement, Augustine gives all glory to God, as in his opening quotation from the Book of Psalms: “Great thou art, and greatly to be praised.” One has to add, however, that even if we admire Augustine’s humility, Rousseau’s language strikes us as more familiar. “To me, with the admiration I owe myself” is a dedication that would look right at home today on a Facebook or MySpace page.

In the eighteenth century, Rousseau’s narcissism, although fashionable among the philosophes, was still something of an anomaly in the wider culture. Indeed, if you believe the statistics in the book under review, such self-conscious narcissism remained an anomaly until roughly forty years ago. Not so today, argue authors Jean Twenge and Keith Campbell. The Narcissism Epidemic opens with this claim: “We didn’t have to look very hard to find it. It was everywhere.” Indeed. As the reader sifts through the evidence the authors have gathered, it becomes apparent that this is a book that could have written itself. And yet this is the first popular book on the topic since Christopher Lasch’s 1979 bestseller, The Culture of Narcissism (a book still very much worth reading, in spite of its somewhat anachronistic theoretical framework, which draws heavily on Freudian psychoanalysis). We should be grateful to Twenge and Campbell for bringing us up to date, carefully collecting and collating the evidence at hand.

The authors, psychologists by training, employ clinical language throughout. In the book’s four sections, the phenomenon of narcissism is understood in terms of “diagnosis,” “causes of the epidemic,” “symptoms,” and “prognosis and treatment.” But what is dealt with here is, in fact, more a cultural phenomenon than a clinical one. The book could be classified as sociology rather than as clinical psychology or medicine. One wonders whether the authors’ use of language derived from a medical model is the wrong approach to the sort of narcissism they describe. The individuals profiled in the book are not the wounded souls who typically visit a psychiatrist’s office in search of succor and healing. They are, instead, the student denizens of UCLA and Texas Tech and the parents who formed them—individuals supposedly healthy and well adjusted, even flourishing, by contemporary standards. And yet, when one looks beneath the surface, these are sick souls. Medicine, then, is perhaps the apt descriptive metaphor. (“Narcissism is a psychocultural affliction rather than a physical disease,” as the authors put it.)

Twenge and Campbell cite empirical research throughout the text, and the evidence is so ubiquitous that it sometimes borders on the tedious. These are psychologists, after all, but an editor might have trimmed the endless numbers, graphs, and repetitious anecdotal evidence that inflate their book’s middle chapters. The anecdotes sometimes amuse, shock, or disgust, but they also tend to wear thin after a while. These quibbles are minor, however; this is a book that needs to be read.

The research that undergirds the book’s central thesis consists of survey data from 37,000 college students. In this sample population, narcissistic personality traits rose dramatically from the 1980s to the present, and the shift was especially pronounced in women. The rise in narcissistic traits has accelerated with each decade since the data began to be collected. The authors assemble evidence to show that these trends are generalizable to other age groups, not simply confined to the sample’s college students. The symptoms of narcissism are vanity; materialism; an inflated sense of one’s own specialness or importance; antisocial behavior; little interest in emotionally close or unselfish relationships, along with a lack of empathy; exaggerated overconfidence; and a strong sense of entitlement. Sound like anyone you know?

Twenge and Campbell correctly lay much of the blame for the epidemic at the feet of the self-esteem movement, which has been enormously influential, not only in the spheres of popular psychology and education, but also as a central tenet of the “gospel of success” message heard in many evangelical megachurches. Indeed, the obsession with self-esteem has crept even into Catholic catechesis. This Trojan horse, the authors argue, has led not to health but to rampant self-centeredness. “Narcissism causes almost all of the things that Americans hoped high self-esteem would prevent, including aggression, materialism, lack of caring for others, and shallow values,” they write. “In trying to build a society that celebrates high self-esteem, self-expression, and ‘loving yourself,’ Americans have inadvertently created more narcissists—and a culture that brings out the narcissistic behavior in all of us.” The self-esteem fad apparently has backfired, but the folks at your local public or parochial grade school don’t seem to have noticed.

In an early chapter, Twenge and Campbell use recent psychological research to deflate five common myths about narcissism. These myths are as follows: that narcissism is “really high” self-esteem; that underneath the facade, narcissists are insecure; that narcissists really are better looking or smarter; that some degree of narcissism is healthy; and that narcissism is nothing more than a bit of physical vanity. All rubbish, says the research. As for the first claim, “narcissists think they are smarter, better looking, and more important than others, but not necessarily more moral, more caring, or more compassionate.” As for the second (that narcissism is a defense against unconscious insecurity), “it turns out that deep down inside, narcissists think they’re awesome.” (This is one area in which the cultural narcissists studied in this book may differ from people with some forms of clinical narcissistic personality disorder. The personality disorder is typically characterized by extreme anger that masks grief of deep emotional wounds and self-doubt. Perhaps further research on severe cases will reveal important differences between the cultural narcissist and the clinical narcissist.)

As for the claim that some narcissism is healthy in a competitive society, the authors argue that “it would be better for everyone not to concentrate on self-feelings—positive or negative—quite so much.” The book’s language here runs against the grain of much conventional wisdom in modern psychology. The authors put the case this way: “Think about the deepest joy you experience in life—it doesn’t typically come from thinking about how great you are. Instead, it comes from connecting with the world and getting away from yourself, as when you enjoy time with friends, family, and children, are engaged at work, or do all-absorbing tasks such as art, writing, crafts, athletics, or helping others.” Twenge and Campbell are drawing here on research from the so-called positive psychology movement, which recently has attempted to shift the focus of psychological research away from disease and disorder to a study of the character strengths that make for happiness and human flourishing. In the process, this research program seems to have rediscovered the list of classical (and even Christian) virtues. Yes, forgetting about myself and giving myself generously to others is a prescription for happiness.

The final misconception, that narcissism is just another word for vanity, is incomplete: “Narcissists are also materialistic, entitled, aggressive when insulted, and uninterested in emotional closeness.” A psychiatric study found that the biggest consequence of narcissism was suffering endured by people close to the narcissist.

The narcissism epidemic is the common denominator underneath many contemporary trends—from grade inflation, to the crass and aggressive tone of so much entertainment, to birthday gifts for high school girls that stupefy the imagination. A friend who teaches at a Catholic high school in Orange County, California, confirmed Twenge and Campbell’s claim that breast augmentation surgery has become a common graduation gift from parents to their teenage daughters.

The Narcissism Epidemic traces the root causes of narcissism to the triumph of the therapeutic mentality, beginning in the 1970s; to changes in parenting styles (parents wanting their kids’ approval rather than children striving for parental approval); to celebrities who are “famous for being famous” and the media that transmit their endless, self-absorbed chatter; to the MySpace/Facebook/YouTube phenomenon (dubbed Web 2.0); and to easy consumer credit (which recently came crashing down). One could add to the authors’ list, the capitulation of schools, churches, and other mediating institutions of society to these trends and fads.

“Vanity of vanities, all is vanity,” saith the preacher. “Hell, yeah, I’m hot!” saith the Facebook home page. This is vanity on steroids, and it is becoming the norm. From whence will we find the cure for this disease? As the authors argue, we need to implement reforms in parenting styles, the media, education, economic policy, and the tone of political and social life. No one who reads this book can reasonably disagree with these prescriptions. But we need more. The virtue of humility is the real antidote, and Twenge and Campbell endorse this. But even among the noblest pagans such as Aristotle, humility was not included among the list of virtues. Humility is a distinctively Christian virtue, grounded in the doctrine of Christ’s kenosis. It is not triumphalism, but simply a fact of history: Christianity was the leaven that shaped a more humble and humane culture; gave rise to America’s founding values; and, ultimately, prevented us from worshipping ourselves. The cure? Either we will become the salt and light that purge and dispel the insipid narcissism that surrounds us, or our culture will continue to descend deeper into the loud, crass, and aggressive cult of self-worship.

Aaron Kheriaty, M.D., is director of residency training and medical education and founding director of the Psychiatry and Spirituality Forum at the department of psychiatry at the University of California, Irvine.

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2.16.2010 | 7:44am
I teach in a Christian college where the students are considered good kids. However, this article explains a lot of what I'm seeing in the students' thought processes. This article has helped me understand what is going on with them. It seems that the best antidote for this kind of mind set is to help them get outside their own lives and small worlds and into the lives of people with true needs.
2.16.2010 | 9:50am
John Holland says:
Great article. The only thing I disagree with is "Humility is a distinctively Christian virtue" and betrays some ignorance of the author. Humility is a core component of Buddhism, and I have met many people not raised in a biblical tradition who are yet very humble people.
2.16.2010 | 12:02pm
Perelandra says:
Sorry, but the names of many medieval architects (then simply called builders) are known--enough to fill a small book. Masons also had distinctive marks to cut on the stones they worked although these can't be matched with names. Construction accounts also survive for some cathedrals.
2.16.2010 | 12:26pm
Very insightful article from Dr. Kheriaty. This phenomenon ought to be talked about more often in public. It will do our society much good.

Re: Mr. Holland's comment. It is true that humility is a core component of Buddhism, but in terms of its influence on western society, I believe that Dr. Kheriaty's analysis is sound.
2.16.2010 | 12:27pm
Very insightful article from Dr. Kheriaty. This phenomenon ought to be talked about more often in public. It will do our society much good.

Re: Mr. Holland's comment. It is true that humility is a core component of Buddhism, but in terms of its influence on western society, I believe that Dr. Kheriaty's analysis is sound.
2.16.2010 | 3:42pm
Sean says:
Narcissism is typically something I see in the younger crowd, but normally falls off as they get older. Though it seems the children of the 80s yuppies are like their parents in concentrated form, and you have to wonder how this generation's kids'll turn out. But what about narcissism as it relates to older generations? Are 30- and 40-somethings as bad as teens and 20-somethings?
2.16.2010 | 4:29pm
Jeff says:
I do not think it is proper to say humility, in the Christian sense, is an aspect of Buddhism. Humility, in Christianity, is the recognition of the fall of man and the vast inferiority we bare with respect to God. Humility in Buddhism is the belief that this life is one of unremitting sorrow. In the one it is self-condemnation, in the other the contempt for this life; the latter is hardly a Christian idea, life being the gift of God.
2.16.2010 | 4:50pm
Where does Rousseau's dedication appear? It isn't in my copy of Confessions.
2.17.2010 | 9:33am
It is interesting that narcissism leads to anti-social behavior, especially since "social" media is listed as a potential contributor to the increase in narcissism. I have always felt that "social media" was "anti-social" media (look at me. I'm typing on a computer instead of talking to the three people who just walked by my door), but I can't quite put my finger on it. I think "social media" is a great introduction, but many people leave the relationship purely digital. This is obviously very anti-social, and I am curious about what the author suggests as indicators of "anti-social behavior" in the study of narcissism.
2.19.2010 | 10:51pm
Christine R. says:
Your article was thought-provoking. However, I disagree with what you said about "The self-esteem fad apparently has backfired, but the folks at your local public or parochial grade school don’t seem to have noticed."

Schools, public or private, have to serve the people. As educators, we have observed changes in behavior of the children, as well as, their parents, and not for the better. A great quantity of parents seem to have a sense of entitlement towards the school. They are demanding and defensive in regards to their children. We do notice, and if you don't think we do, by all means, spend a day in a local school, and see what we have to encounter on a daily basis. Remember, our jobs as educators are to teach. More often than not, we end up parenting the children.
2.23.2010 | 8:24am
Great article, but I agree with the comment that humility is hardly a uniquely Christian virtue. The post above which in which humility was defined as [in Christianity] " the recognition of the fall of man and the vast inferiority we bare with respect to God" hasn't defined humility, but simply its meaning within one religion. Of course in Christianity humility is related to the fall of man- that's a central teaching of Christianity, but not in Judaism or Islam, both of which stress humility, and the concomitant idea of service, as central spiritual virtues.
2.24.2010 | 6:48pm
John says:
If you want to see narcissus in action turn on your TV set, especially commercial TV. And of course the entire content of what is promoted as religion on TV--with no exceptions.

So too with your commercial radio.

Whats in it for me is the only message, especially via the advertisements.

TV of course has turned the former seven deadly sins into the seven cardinal virtues.

The "success" of the system altogether depends on inventing and promoting via advertising ever increasing ways to indulge these seven sins/virtues.

The entire system would collapse is this systematic promotion of new ways of "sinning" were ended.

Narcissus is the nature of ALL of human society now. As a result, human society has become progressively more and more aggravated, and fundamentally dissociated from Reality Itself---leading to an absurd and insane life of competitive conflict for the totality of humankind.
2.25.2010 | 8:00am
C A Reyes says:
What is significant and unique to Christianity regarding humility, as noted in the article, is the word kenosis. That is God deigned or came down in human vesture in the person of Jesus Christ. That if the God of the universe humbled Himself how much more should we? Christianity makes a rather radical claim when speaking about humility.
2.27.2010 | 9:12am
Nice work, Aaron. Especially fitting is the Augustine Rousseau comparison (I actually wrote a paper on that distinction once--email me and I will send it along).

One things about taking credit for one's work. I think that might be a more positive practice than you seem to imply. While individual craftsment did not take credit for cathedrals, no doubt artisan guilds took credit in order to be hired elsewhere. And little doubt within the scope of those guilds artisans had their own reputations. I think the lack of paper and pen and reliable long-distance communication may have kept the scope of taking credit quite small, but without some degree of self-interest and self-revelation to others by means of one's work, the world would be a poorer and less charitable place.

Also, I noticed you attached your name to the article...(just teasing ;)
3.1.2010 | 9:43pm
Yes, indeed, Matt. You got me regarding attaching my name to the article. I'm way too proud of having written such a fine piece, which means it totally backfired in terms of my own personal growth.

In terms of taking credit for one's work, I think what we are witnessing is a shift from drawing attention to the work itself (and therefore, drawing some attention to one's hand in shaping the work, which is perfectly legitimate), and simply drawing attention to oneself, regardless of one's achievements. One of the characteristic features of the narcissists studied in the book is the total disconnect between their actual achievements -- the work of their hands or their intellects -- and their inflated self-opinion or grandiose self-presentation. It's the "famous for being famous" problem that is currently on the rise. Having such people actually produce something worthwhile in their work, and as a consequence, gain a measure of self-esteem or legitimate pride, would be a huge step in the direction of virtue.
8.12.2010 | 6:44am
humble guy says:
You had me thinking you were truly a better writer than most until - "Humility is a distinctively Christian virtue, grounded in the doctrine of Christ’s kenosis." Believing that, as a Christian you are part of the beginning of creating a culture of humility, the best that man has to offer, reread what G-d has to say about Moses (a Jew) and his being a model of epitomising the most humble of men.

Then reread the article you wrote :)
5.18.2011 | 6:02am
Mark says:
As a married man of 4 years to a very narcissitstic woman. Anger and pain due to not being appriciated and not feeling loved is my daily battle. Everything is always about her, Ijust give, give and give but don't get anything in return. It always has to be her way, my needs, opinions don't coun't. It's not a life to live. I am losing my mind. That's why I am filing for a divorce, eventhough we have a 1.5 year old child.
5.18.2011 | 6:03am
Mark says:
As a married man of 4 years to a very narcissitstic woman. Anger and pain due to not being appriciated and not feeling loved is my daily battle. Everything is always about her, Ijust give, give and give but don't get anything in return. It always has to be her way, my needs, opinions don't coun't. It's not a life to live. I am losing my mind. That's why I am filing for a divorce, eventhough we have a 1.5 year old child.
11.10.2011 | 2:45pm
Sarah says:
"...cult of self-worship." Haha! Love it! So true. And yes, humility is a Christian virtue. A byproduct of obedience really. The commandments to lose one's life and to love God (and others) more than oneself naturally produce humility when obeyed.
11.13.2011 | 2:40pm
Mary says:
Take note of what the Apostle Paul says we will experience in the last days (especially the first in the list) with the fact that this has rapidly increased in the last 40 years:

2 Timothy 3:1-5
1 But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.
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