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Cultural Despondency and Cultural Motherhood

Today the Catholic Church celebrates the Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe. On Saturday, we celebrated the Feast of the Immaculate Conception, and in just two short weeks we will celebrate the Feast of the Incarnation: Christmas. The Immaculate Conception, the Feast of our Lady of Guadalupe, and even Christmas are particularly maternal feasts. They recognize the key role that women—especially Mary—have played in the history of Christianity. And they recognize the degree to which the Church reveres the feminine genius, and the genius of motherhood.

A friend recently mentioned to me that it seems strange for the Church to spend this December celebrating women. “Women,” he said, “have had a difficult year with the Church.” He was referring to the “war on women” rhetoric that has been so pervasive in popular culture over the past twelve months. I suspect he was thinking specifically of the Church’s opposition to the HHS contraceptive mandate, and the rhetorical battle between America’s bishops and women like Sandra Fluke. My friend is an Episcopalian, and so he may have also had in mind the Church of England’s decision this November to restrict episcopal ordination to men.

The truth is that women have been at the center of our broad culture war for decades. Since the time of the sexual revolution, the term “women’s issues” has been synonymous with bitter social debates over sexuality, contraception, and the family. As with most election years, the rhetoric has been particularly heated, and particularly discouraging, this year.

Since the 1970s, the intellectual left has used trumped-up charges of gender inequality and oppression to advance an agenda of wanton sexual license and libertinism. The idea that women’s issues are only those concerning sexuality is shamefully reductive, and eerily dismissive of the idea that a woman might be more than just an object of sexuality.

Despite pockets of hope, the Church is mostly losing these culture wars. There is no other conclusion to draw from the election of a radically pro-abortion president, the expansion of homosexual civil unions and gay marriage, and the profusion of pro-contraceptive, anti-family media. Last week, a prominent Catholic university announced administration support for an on-campus GLBTQ club. Traditional moral norms are crumbling.

We need to continue the clear, unambiguous defense of traditional morality to which the Church, and many Christians, are committed. We are blessed with a host of articulate spokesmen and women making cogent arguments in favor of natural law. But despite the best efforts of excellent minds, the Church is largely unheard, and her arguments mostly distorted by a media that has lost its ability to think critically and examine empirical reality. The Church is being simply overrun by the pervasive rhetoric of relativism, false notions of equality, and the so-called “war on women.”

The irony of leftist cultural distortion is that Christian positions on social issues—abortion, contraception, marriage, most especially—are designed to protect the dignity and social standing of women. Women across the globe face abortion at shockingly disproportionate rates. In 2010, economist Tim Reichert demonstrated in these pages that contraception empirically harms female social status. And the disintegration of marriage will continue to contribute to the plight of single mothers raising children without ever hearing from fathers. But it is the Church and her allies, the left tells us, waging war on women.

Well-reasoned engagement with the forces of cultural destruction is necessary. But the lesson of the past twelve months is that we need to do something else. Reason alone isn’t winning battles. In fact the more we argue, the less we seem to be heard. The solution may be found in the image of Our Lady of Guadalupe, tenderly embracing the humble Juan Diego, and tenderly embracing a people.

The solution to ending the culture wars is motherhood—a deeper awareness of the obligation Blessed John Paul II termed “cultural motherhood.”

Motherhood is the art of finding potential, and fostering it. Motherhood is the craft of focusing on the good and trusting that the rest will fade away. Motherhood is the penetrating beauty of unwavering hope, and unflinching love. This is how John Paul II called women to love culture. In imitation of Our Lady of Guadalupe, who transformed a culture for Christ, women have the unique gift of cultivating the seeds of beauty. The feminine genius is the practice of literally growing goodness in spite of incredible obstacles.

We need to grow goodness in Western culture. We need to find pockets of good—vestigial echoes of truth—and foster them. We need to refute what is evil—undoubtedly. But we also need to cultivate every possible inroad of beauty, if we ever hope for a re-flowering of Christian culture. Motherhood is our great social cultivator.

We face incredible obstacles in contemporary American culture. Many of us are despondent. And in despondency we should look to our mother—the Blessed Mother—and encourage, foster, and promote the cultural motherhood that Mary demonstrates. “Beauty,” reflected Dostoevsky, “will save the world.” There is nothing more beautiful than a mother loving her child into goodness—and nothing we need more urgently.

The Most Rev. Samuel J. Aquila is the Archbishop of Denver.

RESOURCES

Timothy Reichert, “Bitter Pill

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Comments:

12.12.2012 | 2:27am
Amen, your Excellency. And don't forget St. Juan Diego, whose feast was December 9. He respected women. Catholicism, to which the people of America were won over by the intercession of the Virgin of Guadalupe, saved those who had been previously enslaved to sinister deities that demanded and received countless human sacrifices. May she, the "pregnant virgin," intercede again on behalf of the millions (Americans are worse than the Aztecs) now being sacrificed via abortion to the god of nothingness, the evil abyss that the self becomes when it is worshipped instead of the True God. †
12.12.2012 | 8:52am
Karen says:
Does your church believe women can foster our own potential? Why is nurturing restricted to women? The vision you offer of motherhood is cowardly, weak, and dimwitted, limited to being background for men who will do the important and creative things while we women are nothing more than passive cheerleaders. When the church supports women's cultural and economic equality and drops the fiction that complementary roles are anything but inferior, and admits that separate can ever be equal for the sexes any more than it is for races, then maybe we will listen to you.
12.12.2012 | 9:42am
Mark says:
Karen,
So being a mother is neither "creative" nor "important"?
I feel like crying.
12.12.2012 | 9:47am
John Willems says:
Karen
"When the church supports women's cultural and economic equality and drops the fiction that complementary roles are anything but inferior,"
Complementary roles are inferior? A little bit like saying that the heart is inferior to the lungs. I guess this is where feminists and the Church truly part ways. The Church defends to right of women to be women. Feminists defend the right of women to be men.
12.12.2012 | 9:54am
Guest says:
This is the crux: Reason alone isn’t winning battles. In fact the more we argue, the less we seem to be heard.

Reasoned, logical argumentation is NOT doing it because people simply don't care! They honestly really don't. Most of us, the entire western world in fact, is wallowing in it's consumer paradise and is simply too comfortable and lazy to make an effort. We really just don't care. Why fight these so-called battles when I am fed, entertained and satisfied?

No amount of scientific data confirming the destructive nature of some activities will ever convince people there is anything intrinsically disordered about some of those activities. Recently the BBC actually reported that today the ratio of men who have sex with other men infected with HIV in Britain is 1:20. That's right 1 in 20 is infected with it and yet there is no alarm being sounded. How do you argue with that? Well, I am almost ready to admit you don't, you can't. You walk away, as Jesus did, you shake the dust off your feet and move on to another town.

I could go on, but what's the point. The culture is extremely hostile to truth and beauty. It's a very, very strange time.
12.12.2012 | 9:57am
Guest says:
Case in point: Karen. Just plain weird reaction to the article.
12.12.2012 | 10:21am
jason taylor says:
Karen, do NOT throw around the word "cowardly" lightly. Ever.

As for you're denigrating the maternal "vision of women" there is nothing passive about motherhood and it is more "creative" then most occupations. Or perhaps you are saying that being, say, a political activist, is more honorable then being a mother?

And what is this "important" stuff to which you compare motherhood. Being an office worker perhaps.

Feminist man-hating is bad enough. Mom-hating besides being disrespectful of an honorable vocation, is a denial of life.
12.12.2012 | 10:29am
Karen says:
Being a mother is a biological process that requires only having a functioning uterus and ovaries, and at least once having sex. It is no more creative than sneezing or peeing or sweating.
12.12.2012 | 10:38am
A Reader says:
Handing on to another generation the cultural and spiritual wisdom of the ages and warning them of the errors and mistakes of the ages;

Guiding members of another generation through the difficult process in which will, intelligence, bodily powers, desires, and emotions (or mind, heart, body, and soul) are integrated, producing a truly free "acting person;"

Creating a place of beauty where a father, mother, and children can practice the good graces of civility and order within the context of willed love and can bring these necessary qualities into the larger community and the nation ---

These things are "cowardly, weak, and dimwitted"?

A woman is perfectly free to choose otherwise and to have her choices respected, as Karen must know.

I do wonder about the source of such bitter invective toward a person who came to understand motherhood as something noble and beautiful and simply offers that understanding to others - not as the only choice but a good and fulfilling choice - among the options available to women who are free to choose.
12.12.2012 | 10:40am
thereserita says:
I am not a 'passive cheerleader' & the Church has NEVER taught that's what women are. Makes as much sense as saying that my heart is a 'passive cheerleader' for my brain or vice versa. BOTH are completely necessary to the successful functioning of my body.
So sad, Karen, to be incarcerated in the prison of ignorance and prejudice against the Church. Name calling only exacerbates that condition. If you're sincere, and you probably are, then do yourself a favor & go spend ten bucks on a Catechism. In the meantime, everyone on this thread will join in prayer for you.
12.12.2012 | 12:00pm
Steve S says:
Thank you for your wonderful comments thereserita. I am offended when ignorant people insult women like my mother, my grandmothers, my sister, etc., who have dedicated their lives to giving themselves in love to their children and who are faithful to the Church's teaching about womanhood. The implication of Karen's comments above is that these women in my life are somehow naive idiots who have been duped by the hateful patriarchy. It's insulting. By the way, here are other apparently idiotic women:

The Blessed Mother, St. Perpetua, St. Felicity, St. Catherine of Alexandria, St. Hildegard of Bingen, St. Catherine of Genoa, St. Joan of Arc, St. Teresa of Avila, St. Therese of Lisieux, St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross, St. Katherine Drexel, Dorothy Day...
12.12.2012 | 12:18pm
Isabel says:
@ Karen. By your bitter comments I assume you are not a mother, or otherwise a not very good one. I feel sorry for you for being so blatantly resentful of Motherhood. Spit at the vocation all you want, but "Motherhood is not having a functioning uterus and ovaries and at least once having sex.." It's a lifetime of caring, nurturing , loving and guiding. And it's very sad and pathetic to liken it to peeing. I wish breastfeeding was as easy as sneezing, and reasoning with a cranky toddler was as easy as sweating, or helping your worried teenager through a problem as automatic as blinking. Speak to a hurt, grown adult who never had a Mother, then come back and tell me motherhood is as useful and dumb-brained as peeing. You mock my vocation, and that of millions of other women whilst still convincing yourself you are standing up for other "fellow" women's "rights". Who needs enemies when we have silly females like you.
12.12.2012 | 12:41pm
Karen says:
Isabel, I have two sons. I am raising them to understand that cleanliness, orderliness, nurturing and kindness are admirable traits in humans, not trivia that can be subcontracted to whatever females are available. Conservatives don't actually value those traits they call feminine; they ascribe useful traits to women so they can exclude women from education and economic power. Some of a house wife's tasks are interesting, but not because of some Housewife Mother Superpower. Your church doesn't seem to think men need to be nurturing or thoughtful; they have women to do that, along with scrubbing toilets and other chores males won't soil themselves.
12.12.2012 | 1:28pm
Richard says:
Once again a bishop has inspired bitter debate among people. Calling the president the most most radically pro abortion president is not helpful when he IS the president, was legally elected and has often said he was not in favor of abortion. He has continually called for public policy to make abortion less frequent. Is this bishop listening? No. All he knows is inflammatory rhetoric as when the president spoke at Notre Dame. Forget that in the past many pro-choice politicians had spoken at Catholic Universities with nary a peep from the bishops. It is unfortunate that leaders like this bishop have chosen to rest their case on strict Catholic doctrine instead of working to inspire and win hearts and minds with the positive theology of healing and redemption. But like a professor at Notre Dame has speculated, leaders like this writer have seen the significant erosion of their power as a result of the abuse scandals, and are desperately trying to shore up their eroding power by drawing lines in the sand and setting up the faithful with loyalty tests. My hats off to the faithful that like some commentators here adhere blindly to the magisterium. I can't go that far myself. And many can't because of similar misgivings.
12.12.2012 | 1:33pm
Guest says:
Karen,

I just read an article today that I found very interesting. http://www.christianpost.com/news/not-war-on-women-war-on-womens-fertility-scholar-says-86424/
12.12.2012 | 1:36pm
Patrick says:
Karen, have you considered that your belief that Catholic men only value women for housework, and that all male Catholics want to deny women education and money, is itself a form of sexism much more pronounced than anything expressed by the author of this article? Or are you comfortable making sweeping generalizations of Catholic men and claiming to know all their personal motivations? Would you say that there is a specific "type" that all Catholic men represent, and that you are able to explain to us what that type is?
12.12.2012 | 1:42pm
Constance says:
@Karen, just saw that you are a mother. That makes your comments even sadder. Perhaps instead of trolling Catholic articles to espouse your clear ignorance of the Church you should examine what the Church actually teaches. You are out of your depth and appear bigoted and ignorant in your assumptions. I suggest Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body or On the Dignity and Vocation of Women. Your anger and hatred blind you and keep you from engaging this thread through reason. I am sure all who have seen your comments, men and women, will be praying for your family. Catholics have no problem engaging others with differing viewpoints. We, however, expect it to done in intellectual honesty and not out of hatred and ignorance. Read what the Church actually teaches, from the Church's sources, not some garbage you learned in a Women's Studies course that is woefully ignorant. God bless you and your family.
12.12.2012 | 1:45pm
Magdalene says:
Karen,
We are not speaking strictly of biological motherhood. No, a 9 year old can be a physical mother. We are speaking of the feminine genious that is true motherhood--it is of the heart. It is a giving of self and is a nurturing and loving care of others.

We do indeed need God's intervention in our country that is morally and rapidly economically bankrupt. In the Aztec culture where hundreds of thousands were sacrificed to the gods yearly and one of 5 children murdered, God sent His Mother who we know as Our Lady of Guadalupe and she converted Mexico within a decade--what had been a bloodthirsty culture became Catholic.

In the United States about 4000 unborn children are murdered in their mother's wombs every day. For African-Americans, 2 of 3 pregnancies end in abortion. What will it take to end this slaughter? Not politics, not a man. Perhaps God will send Our Lady again....would we listen, can we even hear heaven?
12.12.2012 | 1:51pm
Steve S says:
Karen, please, you are speaking out of sheer ignorance, but now you insult not only mothers, but every father who has ever been "nuturing or thoughtful" or any man who, in love for his child, has changed a diaper or cleaned up vomit. Your comments are petty and you're embarrassing yourself.

If you think the Catholic Church doesn't value education in women, then I would refer you to the list of women I put at the end of my last post. Not only are those women educated, some on that list have been officially declared Doctors of the Church. In other words, the Catholic Church explicitly says that we have the most to learn from these women, who were geniuses in every sense of the word. I would encourage you to read and explore these women's lives and writings.

Finally, if I am ever blessed to have a daughter, I would hope that she could aspire to something more noble than "economic power". Whether my daughter ever were to become a mother herself is not for me to know or to decide. But I am sure of at least this: there is more dignity and humanity in a mother or father changing a dirty diaper than in every corporate boardroom in the world combined.
12.12.2012 | 1:58pm
Karen, Wouldn't you say women are more nuturing, by their nature, than men?

And why do you think women do not do the creative things. Is creativity only limited to the workplace? Do you have a negative impression of motherhood? Is that not as important to you as working in the marketplace.

Why do you have such a negative impression of motherhood? Don't mothers have extremely important creative roles in raising athe next generation?

Perhaps you have issues that previously, men did not give women the due they had coming to them.

Behind a successful man is a woman. We men need to recognize that. And recognize the importance women play in raising children.

It seems that you place more importance in women working than women rasiing children.

Foster one's own potential. Certainly women can delay marriage and childbearing and work. But if you limit the value of women to their contributions in the marketplace, then you are misrepresenting the nature of women.

I am sorry . Males I know do scrub toilets, clean floors, do dishes, wipe baby's bottoms and do all the denegrating duties you ascribe to women. It's a team effort.

Perhaps you had a father who did not do those things. Maybe he devalued your mother. Maybe your husband does not appreciate the work you do.

I am sorry for that. It should not be that way. Husbands need to love their wives as Christ loves his church. No subordination.
12.12.2012 | 2:01pm
Guest says:
I pity you greatly Karen. Life must be very trying for you. But at least you're not alone.
12.12.2012 | 2:01pm
@Karen Friend, consider first that in the late Roman and early middle ages, the Church offered women the only other choice besides marrying as their father wished (the rich), or scrapping out a hard living off the land (the poor). The Church offered women the ability to live amongst each other in equal communities where they elected their own leaders, and it offered them education and a life of the mind and spirit in prayer and study. Many of them took it, possibly as much as a third of the population by the middle ages. (A few Roman girls even died at the hands of fathers who refused to let them resist arranged marriage and go to the convent.) Many great women came to be renowned for their wisdom and their ability to challenge kings and popes on vital matters--indeed, they are still renowned for it today. Later, women entered the active apostolates and traveled the world founding schools, universities, and hospitals where there were none--and yes, more monasteries. In every age of the Church, women have been known to care for the poor, in places where poor really means poor. This was especially graceful when those women were queens caring for their own people, who adored them for it. Search until you find good books of women saints and then read until you find the story that inspires you, as many here (even men) have found the stories that inspired us: Hildegaard of Bingen, Bridget of Sweden, Julian of Norwich, Catherine of Siena, Teresa of Avila, Therese of Lisieux, and Edith Stein. Consider the towering will of Dorothy Day and the worldwide adulation of Mother Teresa not for her clothes, but for her actions.
12.12.2012 | 2:19pm
Jessica says:
@Karen

"Being a mother is a biological process that requires only having a functioning uterus and ovaries, and at least once having sex. It is no more creative than sneezing or peeing or sweating."

That is such a destructive understanding of the vocation of a mother that I sincerely hope that you do not have any children. Motherhood is essential to my very being, my very nature. That "functioning uterus" as you so crassly put it, is the first home of a fledgling soul (or souls for some of us!), the first encounter with love and nurturance, the first mediation with God. Being a mother is creative precisely because, like the Blessed Mother, one partners with God for the sake of another. It is creative because in the proper sublimation of all of one's petty desires and one's petty selfishness, one (ideally) becomes a total self-gift. Obviously, motherhood is a biological process -- but how is it that you have so little wonder and awe for biology? I, for my part, am amazed that God has entrusted so important a task -- the creation of new life -- to so fragile a process.
12.12.2012 | 2:27pm
Rosario says:
Karen - your comments are interesting and thought provoking. Our culture has described the roll traditionally filled by women as not worthwhile and unfulfilling. Ask any man in a committed marriage if he would like to trade places with his wife and you will probably hear that that is impossible - his wife is invaluable in creating and sustaining a healthy home life. Ask any woman if she would like to go out and work and she will automatically go through the list of things that won't get done if she does so. It isn't the chores that fall to the wayside - it is the interpersonal relationships that suffer because of a lack of time. Mature men and women know that a sacrifice of time is required to create an environment of love. Men sacrifice by going out into the world and working while women sacrifice by offering their lives to the development of their family & children. I'm very sorry that you don't have this reality as it creates a beauty that surpasses the promises of modern feminism. A few final comments- I've been married for over 30 years - my husband has cleaned the toilet for 98% of that time. Again, your sweeping generalizations are not based in reality. In addition, teaching boys cleanliness, orderliness, nuturing and kindness are admirable goals - the church nor conservatives have never thought that those traits should be subcontracted to females. These have always been taught as virtues for everyone to develop. And, women can get an education - in fact, they are - at higher numbers than ever and higher than males. So, again, ascribing your personal situation to the church or conservatives doesn't help either you our culture.
12.12.2012 | 2:47pm
Karen,

I think you are missing the point of the good Bishop and of Pope John Paul II and, frankly, so are some of who you call "conservatives."

The Bishop, as explicitely stated in the headline, is talking here not only about biological motherhood and motherhood within the domain of family, but also, and even more to the point, cultural motherhood.

He's asking "mothers" to apply their unique gifts and capacities in the broader culture so as to nurture beauty and goodness in the midst of cultural ruin that seems inpenetrable by human reason.

He is most certainly NOT saying women need to get back to the kitchen in their bare feet. He's saying what our culture needs to have any chance at restoration is women to engage it with those qualities that are necessary to create, nurture, and sustain love and life in the midst of nihilism and hedonism, which is not, typically, amenable to logic and reason.

You'll also note the number of women Saints, including my wife's (she's a physician and yes, I have cleaned toilets and changed diapers) favorite saint, Gianna, who was also a physician and had four children.

The Catholic world is full of profesional women who have been mothers at home and mothers in the culture.

I think that's what the good Bishop is asking all women to do - extend the feminine genius into the culture and nuture and sustain beauty and goodnes - to redeem the rubble.
12.12.2012 | 3:43pm
Terry says:
Motherhood is not a biological process. Giving birth is a biological process that any fertile woman can do, but a man must be involved somehow either through coitus or through an in vitro medical procedure. Motherhood is much more. It is a vocation which can only be done by a loving, nurturing woman and ideally there is a supportive and caring man present in a "complementary role".
12.12.2012 | 6:59pm
In says:
I'm not concerned with individuals like Karen. As with any large group of people, some lump on the left, seeking to impose irrational Orwellian plans to "liberate" humanity. No one trumpeted women's equality more than the Soviet dictators, but what that amounted to was slavery to the state for both men and women. Of these type of "Karens," there shall be no end. Lemmings of the left, eventually they end up over a cliff of their own making ...

What concerns me is the despondency of the Archbishop. What we need now is vibrancy and confidence in the Roman Catholic Church's Gospel message! As John Paul II so often quoted "Be Not Afraid!" Take heart, Archbishop! Read Romans, chapter 8, especially

37 No, in all these things we conquer overwhelmingly through him who loved us.
38 For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor present things, nor future things, nor powers,
39 nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Now, buck up and lead your flock! We need strong and joyous Bishops to lead the new evangelization!
12.13.2012 | 3:25am
Don Roberto says:
We make a difference when we help our neighbors to find the path the heaven. All the materialistic success/accomplishments in the world (consider Napoleon or Obama or whoever you wish) come to naught in the end. But setting a child on the path to Paradise? That's eternally valuable.
12.13.2012 | 11:50pm
Don Roberto says:
In, His Excellency apparently isn't in the "in crowd." (The crowd that acts as if all is well.) We are called to be brave, of course, but these are sad times. Read what Jesus says of "the last days." Look at what's on TV, even during "prime time." Look at the line and Communion and compare it to the line at the Confessional. Consider that thousands of babies were killed in the U.S. alone today, while our president and other leaders went untroubled about their business. Then tell me the glass is half full.

Consider a prayer you may have heard: "Hail Holy Queen, Mother of Mercy, our life, our sweetness and our hope. To thee do we cry, poor banished children of Eve; to thee do we send up our sighs, mourning and weeping in this vale of tears. Turn then, Most Gracious Advocate, thine eyes of mercy toward us; and after this, our exile, show unto us the blessed Fruit of thy womb, Jesus..." †
12.14.2012 | 2:15pm
Cat says:
The response from Karen and to Karen is quite interesting, and I think it leads to another issue. Motherhood, in all its beautiful forms and manifestations does need to be celebrated and promoted, BUT ALONGSIDE that of fatherhood. As many of the posts have pointed out, these two lifestyles are complementary, and therefore, linked. If we want motherhood to be better understood and more widely accepted, I do not think that can be done successfully unless fatherhood is also promoted. I think our society has totally disentangled the two from each other which has led to the pervesion and/or rejection of both roles/lifestyles/vocations.
1.7.2013 | 6:31pm
Kate says:
@Karen - I would love to talk with you if ever you would like. My phone number is 720.382.5242, and I work for Endow (Educating on the Nature and Dignity of Women).
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