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In Christianity Today , Mollie Ziegler Hemingway discusses the fact that many of those who want marriage equality do not want fidelity :

Same-sex marriage advocates frequently ask, “How would gay marriage affect your marriage?” The question is posed rhetorically, as if marriage is a private institution with no social consequences.

But The New York Times , of all papers, argues that gay unions could significantly alter marriage norms. A new study of gay couples in San Francisco shows that half are “open,” meaning that partners consent to each other having sex with other people. The Times says that the prevalence of such relationships could “rewrite the traditional rules of matrimony” by showing straight couples that monogamy need not be a “central feature” of marriage and that sexually open relationships might “point the way for the survival of the institution.”

In the gay community, open relationships are neither news nor controversial. Many of my partnered, gay male friends are in open relationships, some of which have lasted for decades. But the Times reporter, Scott James, who is himself gay, notes that nobody in an open relationship agreed to give their full name for the story, worrying that “discussing the subject could undermine the legal fight for same-sex marriage.”

Even though I’ve been harping on this same theme for a long time (see here and here ) I still find people who are shocked that many (most?) homosexual men have a different view of “monogamy” than do heterosexuals.

As I’ve asked before, are religious supporters of same-sex marriage ready to redefine marriage in a way that leaves out monogamy? While they may still say no, I suspect it won’t be long before they too start claiming that we have to be more “open” to other, less heteronormative, views of marriage.

(Via: Craig Carter )

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